When It Doesn’t Go According to Plan

I feel like this kid.  I feel like this kid ALL the time. I even make that face when I see birds.  Anyway…

I had grand plans for this week. Boyfriend gone. House to myself.  Ample time to check off some resolutions. See some people I hadn’t seen in a while.  Maybe get a couple of workouts in. Oh yes.  This week was going to be great.

But I didn’t do any of those things.

And, originally I was going to complain about this.  “My week didn’t go according to plan, boo hoo, still behind on everything, feeling fat, blah blah.”  But when I started to list out the things that DID happen this week…

  • Had feelings expressed to me (love, like, whatever you’ll call it) from someone I didn’t know had them
  • Rode on a Harley
  • Watched the sunrise two mornings in a row
  • Ate some killer sushi over philosophical conversation
  • Helped out a friend in need
  • Got covered in chigger bites

Okay, maybe that last one is a bit of a bummer, but for the rest of them, I’d sound like a real bitch if I said anything other than “This week was actually EXACTLY what I was looking for.”  Adventurous. Full of love and good people. New perspectives and new experiences. The whole reason I started this darn blog, right?  And, I got all of the above, without doing anything that I planned to do.

I’m just so used to having a list and checking things off of it, that suddenly when I was having adventures off the list, I felt like I wasn’t doing anything at all.

Pity, right?

I’ve written in the past about living in the present, but it never ceases to amazing me how genuinely difficult it is to do sometimes. I can’t believe, in retrospect, that I was watching the sunrise thinking “I can’t believe how much I didn’t do today.”  …It’s a sunrise Ami, enjoy it. Or that after riding on that motorcycle my second thought after “I’m alive!” was “That could have been a really bad idea.” It wasn’t, (I even wore a helmet) and it was awesome, nothing bad-idea about it.

So what did we learn this week?

That to-do lists are all fine and good, but make sure you set aside time to deliberately disobey your responsibilities for a while.

In other news, I successfully accessorized an outfit today, and also…bought my first pair of leather pants!  In Texas, no less.

To go with the owl shirt and new leather pants: Fancy new shoes, necklace (right), bracelet (middle) and a feather hair clip (right).

We’ll see how much use I’ll get out of them, but for tonight I plan on sporting them in the darkness of a movie theatre to watch Prometheus.


The Radical Self Love Project

Welcome to 2012 everyone! Before I say anything else, let me extend my hopes for your happiness, health and best adventures yet this year. After a night of food, friends, and some kick-ass spiked coffee I’m feeling pretty good about how the year’s going so far. 😉

Anyway, food and spiked coffee are definitely forms of self-love, but that’s not what I was getting at here.  While finishing up my list of resolutions yesterday I came across an article, attached to an entire blog, that really brightened my day but more importantly, and this will sound extreme but it’s true, brightened my outlook on life.

One of the biggest things that people seem to overlook while they are worrying about that weight they have to lose, or that relationship that needs help or that bank account that’s filled with more dust than money, is Self Love.  Loving oneself unconditionally no matter what’s going on in life, no matter how much holiday weight you put on, no matter how unappreciated you are at work.

Well, Gala Darling gets it.  And that’s why her once-fashion-blog is now an entire project dedicated to showing people how to love themselves.

The article I stumbled upon is called “100 Ways You Can Start Loving Yourself Right Now.”  To some it may sound like a self-help book, but I’m a sucker for lists and good typography so I continued reading.  Suddenly I was stumbling across tips like:

Treat yourself to new knickers.
It’s almost a sure-fire way of feeling sexier & more delighted. Getting 5 pairs of cute knickers for $25 at Victoria’s Secret is one of the great joys in life, I think!

And others like…

Dance in public.
It’s very liberating if you’ve never done it before! & even if you HAVE… Dance in the library or something! Cause a scene. Make people smile. Totally worth it.

This chick’s no Dr. Phil.  And that’s why I like her.  Of course there are more traditional ones too like,

Stop worrying about other people’s opinions.
It doesn’t matter whether it is the opinion of a stranger or your husband, sometimes we let what other people think determine how we live our life… & it’s ridiculous. Ultimately, their thoughts on what we do & how we do it are irrelevant — all that matters is that it sits well with you.

The most obvious ones are often the ones we forget about.

I got through the list and felt absolutely inspired, and more importantly I felt a little more like I could conquer anything.  I encourage you to read the whole list here and explore the rest of her blog at galadarling.com.

Again, happy new year to all.  Spend your first day loving yourself just a little more than you did the day before.